I am a progressive leftist. I was radicalized by decades of poverty, bullying and abuse. It became like seeing behind the curtain, to see the systemic inequality, constant danger and hate behind what I'd thought was a more civilized society.
But when I try to talk about this to some people, they suddenly forget how to read. Liberal Democrats are progressive to a point, but when you start talking about actual life-or-death danger, abuse and systemic issues, they think you're just making it all up. Suddenly it's all fake, Dungeons and Dragons. "Nazis aren't real, they're characters in a movie. Nobody's abusing you, you're just a drama queen."
I always find out too late that my friends just think I'm making it all up when I talk about issues more important and life-threatening than the weather or what's on television.
I suffered all kinds of bullying, abuse and threats to my life (and property and career) in Los Angeles the first time round. There were many times I needed help to survive- help I didn't get. It took me years to realize that the few friends I'd confided in about this were also bullies who didn't believe a goddamn word of it, and just thought I loved to make stuff up for drama.
I left in 2009 and came back in 2015, and things only got worse. I'd seen behind the curtain at that point. I no longer had a stable place to live, and my life was very much in danger. I confided in a middle-class friend, who said, "If you REALLY were homeless I'd help you." I was on the street, "living" out of a suitcase in a place where 30+ people were "living" on the lawn, and having to keep moving to even worse places day by day.
I needed help very badly, and it took me years to even begin to recover mentally or physically. The friend asked what I wanted, and I said, I just need you to listen to what I'm saying and believe me. The friend said, "I can't do that."
Paraphrase: 'You're making it up. You could get a good job and be off the streets at any time. You're choosing to live this way. This is not what America is.'
Today, a lot of people are sharing a letter by some wealthy, privileged writers saying that "cancel culture" is out of hand, by which they mean being criticized for anything they write on Twitter. If you spend as much time on Twitter as I do (too much), it's almost an Avengers-level crossover of people who get paid a lot to have terrible opinions.
It's, uh, complicated, and the letter is only immediately obvious as a trainwreck if you know WAY too much about Twitter drama. A LOT of these people have written absolutely babbling nonsense in the New York Times or similar, and been called on it.
A few names stand out. Jesse Singal and Katie Herzog, who are well known as transphobes, who lead mobs to harass trans people on Twitter in an attempt to drive them to suicide on a constant basis. And Joanne Rowling, who has started doing the same thing relatively recently, conflating trans people with sexual predators hiding in bathrooms to forcibly turn your kids trans.
"Huge numbers of women are justifiably terrified by the trans activists," wrote Rowling, going all in on her anti-trans bigotry. "I refuse to bow down to a movement that I believe is doing demonstrable harm in seeking to erode ‘woman’ as a political and biological class and offering cover to predators like few before it."
For sure it's not healthy to be on Twitter so much and actually know why this letter is a joke. Most of the daily drama that goes on is impossible to explain at this point. But I assure you, Singal, Herzog and Rowling are bad news.
About a dozen people on my friends list are sharing this letter unironically, and one liberal friend said to me directly, this letter is for you. People on the left. She's talking to you. She's saying you're delusional and you've gone too far.
Now I don't doubt that, because Joanne Rowling is trash, but this "friend" was agreeing with Rowling and saying I'm delusional and making stuff up about Nazis harassing people on Twitter.
The same old song. "Nazis aren't real, they're characters in a movie. Nobody's abusing anyone, you're just a drama queen."
Not said directly, but he accused me of making massive leaps in logic. The minute I started talking about bigotry, this friend refused to process what I was saying. He removed my words and inserted his own. He went on his feed and mine, twisting my words and claiming that I had claimed that there is a "neo-nazi sex traffic ring that Malcom Gladwell, Michelle Goldberg, JK Rowling, Noam Chomsky, and Salman Rushdie are definitely a part of."
I had said nothing of the sort. I'd talked about sexual predator Harvey Weinstein, and the transphobia of Joanne Rowling's Twitter account, and the harassment that women and LGBT figures face on social media, but to him that's all made-up nonsense from the land of make-believe.
Because it's all a fucking joke to him. I grew up in a part of Connecticut that only rich people can really live in now. I was privileged, until life kicked my ass and threw me out on the street.
I was privileged, but I've seen the other side of that now. And when I try to explain the way things really are to people I knew back then, they suddenly forget how to read.
So fine, you win. There's nothing wrong with America, or Great Britain. No racism, no bigotry. Trump isn't real. Go back to sleep.
I'm sick of talking to you like children, and still not being understood, because you don't believe anything about how people poorer or more marginalized than you have to live.
Just got a hell of a reply, before blocking someone. Something like "JK isn't transphobic and neither am I. We're Gender Identity Theory Phobic."
I replied, "That's the same thing."
I hate to rant and angrypost, but this has been a hell of a fucking year, and if people haven't been radicalized by the events of this year yet, there's something wrong there.
Cheryl Lynn Eaton writes:
Privileged people are having a really hard time with the knowledge folks don't like and don't want to socialize with them.
Prior to advancements in social media, privileged people had a very fun time using their platforms to judge and describe those without said privileges. And they did it without having to be aware what those people really thought about them.
Now they know and they are DEVASTATED.
Turns out when you deny the humanity of others and declare their culture to be inferior and demonize them in the press, those people will find you loathsome and avoid you. And you cannot silence them or force them to spend their free time debating you or make them work with you.